Angry Saints-Anger Management and the Church
Ephesians 4:17-31 is a passionate plea to the church to live right. Paul gives equal value to the sins of lust, greed, cheating, witchcraft and uncontrolled anger.
As an anger management teacher I never tell my clients to stop being angry. It is an impossible task. Anger is a normal human emotion that must be managed. Paul confirms this in Ephesians 4:26 when he says "Be angry and sin not; let not the sun go down on your wrath.
Paul's description of anger is detailed and complete. A close evaluation of Ephesians 4:31 and Galatians 5:20-21 paints a vivid picture of how anger manifests in the local church today.
Bitterness- Characterized by intense antagonism or hostility
Wrath- Strong, stern, or fierce anger; deeply resentful indignation;
Clamor- A loud uproar, as from a crowd of people, any loud and continued noise
Malice- Desire to inflict injury, harm, or suffering on another, either because of a hostile Impulse, or deep-seated meanness
Discord-Lack of concord or harmony between persons or things; strife; dispute; war
Dissension- Strong disagreement; a contention or quarrel; discord.
Rage- Angry fury; violent anger
Faction- A group of persons forming a cohesive, usually contentious minority within a larger group
Envy- a feeling of discontent or covetousness with regard to another's advantages, success, possessions
Jealousy- Jealous resentment against a rival, a person enjoying success or advantage, etc., or against another's success or advantage itself.
Hatred- intense dislike or extreme aversion or hostility.
According to Ephesians 4:18 the sin of anger alienates us from God. The Bible's view of anger management is quite simple. Stop saying hurtful and angry things. Ephesians 4:22 encourages us to put off concerning the former conversation, verse 29 commands us to let no corrupt communication proceed out of out mouth.
In my experience I've seen many cursing, spitting, screaming aggressive communicators applaud themselves for learning to hold their tongue. They beam with achievement because they have mastered the art of silence. In many ways passive communication is the worst way to manage your anger. It is not God's intent for you to hold your peace. As a matter of fact he wants you to release it. The Bible encourages us to edify one another. We are told to be kindly and affectionate towards one another. Biblical anger management is more than cloaking your rage it is the purposeful act of spreading joy and ease with the words we use.
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About the Author
Shannon Munford is the owner of Daybreak Counseling Service and anger management education center in Los Angeles, California. For more information please visit www.daybreakservices.com